Robin Thicke was at it again at this year’s BET awards–professing his undying love for his dime of a wife, Paula Patton… whom he cheated on! Most women find the upcoming album “Paula” a romantic gesture. Who wouldn’t want to be the muse of what will probably be on Billboard’s Top 100?

Aside from all the songs that he wrote for Paula, the apologies he made on stage, and his public plea for her love… people seem be blinded by the one thing that caused this whole stunt in the first place: HE CHEATED!

There is nothing romantic about cheating on anyone…. let alone Paula fucking Patton! She’s a fucking goddess!

(Don’t get me wrong though… I totally believe that cheating is caused by both parties in the relationship.. but I’ll save that discussion for another time.)

The day after his public apaulagy at BET, Robin Thicke teamed up with VH1 and hosted a Q&A via twitter. I  mean, if Thicke and his PR team didn’t think this #AskThicke stunt would backfire…. they need new careers. There was a lot of backlash on Thicke being a misogynistic douchebag. There were questions about Paula. But what was most interesting about the #AskThicke feed is that most of the fans wanted Thicke to just leave Paula alone.

I couldn’t agree more. All these “romantic” gestures aren’t romantic. They’re pathetic. They’re useless. They’re childish. Come on, Rob. Don’t use your fame and your influence on the public eye to try to get ya girl back…. It’s so pathetic, that I literally feel like puking. His performance at the BET awards didn’t make me feel sorry for him; it made me feel sorry for Paula.

She can’t get a moment of peace to really think what’s best for her and her family, cause this dude is over here tryna place Prince Charming. I don’t know bout y’all, but “sorry” for cheating don’t mean shit to me. So, #byefelicia. Or should I say #byerobin?

Here’s a clip of Robin Thicke’s performance at the BET awards. What do y’all think: romantic or pathetic?

If there was a cookie jar to reward my utmost appreciation towards life, I would throw in 10 Oreo cookies into that damn kudo jar! Why? My boyfriend and I just relocated our relationship into a long-distance one. I have to give it up to my Oreo-rewarded, worldwide used, present time technology!  And though I am sad due to 964 miles gap between me and my love, I have to be thankful for the advantage of being able to communicate. Here are a few communication mediums you can use to be able to chop it up and still adhere to that loving bond with yo love:

Facebook

• Facebook chatting
• Video calling

iPhones

• Facetime video calling
• Text messages
• Phone calls

Other Cell Phone Devices

• Text messages
• Phone calls

Skype

• Video calling

Snapchat ( Follow us on @whatthehellz )

• Random video messaging
• Chat message

E-mails

Letters

You cannot tell me this isn’t easily accessible when feening to communicate with your significant other! There’s a variety of communication tools you can use to chop it up. Not only for long-distance relationships, but also for business conferences, keeping in touch, etc! ALL HAIL TODAY’S TECHNOLOGY OF THE 20th CENTURY!

Truly, it is almost uncanning to believe that such a fine, fiooooone, man like Trey Songz is still single. Vocals that can lull you into paradise, body like a goddess… (Let me just stop myself there… I can go on but I prefer to just keep that to myself.) Trey Songz till this day is still a single man and his reason is sure enough good enough for me and I believe some men should insist on taking notes on why he prefers to stay single for the time being.
Trey recently spoke out on his relationship status to Vibe.

“I know that I’m in the club; I know that I’m living a fast life. That’s just where I am right now… But I ain’t really in the position to love nobody right now because I’m so focused, first of all, on making sure that I become a legend. And the true thing about love is, once you commit yourself to love – if you’re gonna do it all the way – you gotta able to give yourself and be responsible for another’s feelings and emotions.

And I just don’t have the time for that right now.”

I know some of you ladies might be heartbroken by this statement Trey made but hey, it takes a man to admit he isn’t ready instead of breaking breaks in the progress to become ready. Now a day too many men insist on being in denial and forcing to put themselves in the position where they are, without a doubt, going to hurt other individuals feelings because they are more preoccupied on something else. Lets save the heartbreak fellas, if you know you’re not ready (like Trey said) don’t jump into something serious and not take the other person’s feelings and emotions into consideration… Live on with your playa life and when you are down to give it all up, give it your all. No half ass, inconsistent shit.

Lets face it guys, we all had our share of those love-sicken romantic story line movies that are cute as hell but purely unrealistic. Yeah, you know those movies that will have you crying yourself to sleep and have Drake’s playlist on repeat for weeks cause you can’t and probably will never find a love like that. Yes, sorry to break it to you simp-atrons but those movies is utter bullshit. If you really want to know what goes down in the REAL world with REAL people you really should look into watching ‘(500) Days of Summer’.

The narrator bluntly is quick to let you know from the start that the story IS about a man and a women but it is NOT a love story. To sum the movie up in a few sentences, there is a guy name Tom who believes in love and well there is Summer, on the other hand, who says she doesn’t believe in love but ends up ditching Tom and later gets with another guy.

We all have been a Tom in certain scenarios and we may have acted like a Summer in other cases, don’t front. That is why this movie is probably one of the sincerest movies out there. We may have met someone that is completely flawless to us and we intensely believe is the missing piece in our lives and that is when the ‘chasing’ stage begins. Headaches, heartaches, mixed signals and all those crushing feelings are bound to occur but we are still in denial that they may not feel the same way just to find out it just wasn’t meant to be.

You really can’t be mad at Summer for leading Tom on cause in the real world we may have done exactly what Summer did to Tom. We may be a little curious and interested in the beginning, we test the waters out, try to make it work but it just doesn’t work out and resort to telling them you just want to be friends.

This movie is crammed with a cluster of things that some may say can closely relate to prior experience with an individual or even their current. Yes, it is a sad movie but in the end it’s life and happy endings are only for fairytales.

It’s been quite a year for our newly-wed bae Yeezus. He recently got married in Florence. He’s putting in work to drop his second collection with A.P.C. He’s pushing out a line with Adidas this coming fall which includes apparel and footwear, and he’s potentially releasing a menswear line as well.

Hate him. Love him. Love to hate him. Hate to love him. Whatever it may be…. just remember, Yeezy taught em! Kanye sat down with GQ to discuss everything from being a daddy to being a misunderstood “blowfish” to admitting that he wasn’t the most popular man in rap last year. Well…. then who is, Ye?!

Here’s an excerpt from Ye’s interview on why his feelings don’t matter anymore:

How does it feel when you read something like that account of your wedding or you see a photo of you looking glum at a zipline go viral?
My feelings don’t matter anymore.

Of course they do.
No. One of the things that I said at the speech was, anyone that’s at this table has had to defend me or Kim or both of us at some point in their life. Ask a boxer: “In the third round, when he hit you from the side on your ear, how did that specifically feel?” You wouldn’t ask a boxer that. Because you know they’re there to fight. Meaning now you know I’m here to fight. I’m here to fight for the re-education of what celebrity is. To say, “Yes, we are celebrities, but yes, we’re also innovators, we’re also inventors, we’re also thoughtful.”

To read the full interview, head over to GQ.

I feel like not enough credit is given to the ‘Next Guy’ that you happen to fall for after you have been broken down so much from your previous… From personal experiences, I have been hurt over and over to the point I don’t won’t to even deal with the heartaches and the mental exhaustion that goes hand in hand in a relationship. For a guy to even make me lean slightly towards the direction in considering going through all the stages all over again must be some hell of a guy. On the other hand, for a guy to even try to come into a relationship knowing I was once broken, highly sensitive and is STILL down to put it with it is? That, there ladies, is what I call someone worth your time.

1. Helps Rebuild You:

After getting out of a relationship where you’ve been fucked over, lied to, mentally abused and psychically exhausted, trying to heal on your own is going to take a long time… That next guy that you happen to fall for will be your catalyst when it comes to rebuilding yourself. Believe it or not, you gotta thank this dude for occupying your time/mind and evidently stop you from playing drake all night cuddled up in the corner of your room.

2. In Competition To Steal A Heart That Once ‘Loved’ Before:

Obviously he knew coming into your relationship that you once cared a lot about someone prior. He knows that he is starting off with a slate that is worn and a bit torn. He is there to un-crinkle, dust off, and repair that slate and he is going to start by doing whatever in his power to steal your heart and make you forget about that loser. (What’s his name? What? Idk what you’re talking about.) He knows your past is in no way a competition to him. He is better for you and he will do everything in his power to prove that to you by working 10x harder than he has to with a girl who wasn’t hurt before.

3. Puts Up With Your Psycho-ness:

Us ladies may come off psycho some times… Yes, I admit it. But it is only cause we have been lied to for so long to the point where we second guess everything like if that girl is really your child hood friend or your side chick and we put in extra effort (aka lurking our asses off) just to figure out if it was a lie or not. Unnecessary as hell but blame that compulsive liar we had to deal with before. The next guy chooses to deal with it explaining to you over and over again that she is nothing more than a friend then we are off tripping on the next female that pops up on his ‘Best friends’ on Snap Chat.

4. Changes Up Your Perspective:

After you have been treated like shit for so long you begin to feel like that’s how a relationship is supposed to be. The next guy comes around and is a complete 360 from your past and you start to get a little weirded out. Give it up to the next guy again for treating you well and you react by tripping on him for being ‘SUS’. Once again he puts up with it and you will eventually learn that not all guys have cruel intentions.

5. Rebuilds Your Self-Esteem:

Your self-esteem is bound to drop after coming out of a relationship of cheating. The next guy knows he has to rebuild your self-esteem whether it is to tell you you’re beautiful every second of the day or to actually show you you’re beautiful by giving you ‘That Look’. (Mhm ladies you know exactly what that look is.) Either way, this helps repair your self-esteem and you can thank the next guy for understanding you’re not yearning for compliments but you REALLY do feel insecure sometimes.

Its almost evident that of course you are going to be hurt as hell, you can’t seem to get that stupid feeling off your chest, your walls are built so high you don’t even know where it ends, but the next guy that changes your perspective on relationships and makes you fall in love all over again is someone you should show much appreciation to. So if this relates to you, go say thanks to ya man immediately. He deserves it.

Lets cut the bullshit, those perpetual ‘lovey-dovey’ type relationships look cute at first but to me seems tedious as hell in the long run.

I like a relationship where you can be flat-out blunt with each other and make humorous remarks and not take it to the head and start a massive fight. That type of relationship where you have no shame in your game as your man can be dropping some kids off on the toilet and you’re at the mirror doing your make-up.

Courtney and Scott definitely have that best friend type of relationship I feel all couples should be more like. Their relationship is very unpredictable and exciting, as there is no type of filter when it comes to speaking their minds and at the end of the day it’s pretty evident that they are madly and deeply in love with each other. Lets take a stroll through the hysterically cute moments that went down in their relationship.

*CRYING IN ENVY INTERNALLY*

You know those small details that you contemplate over and over again that seems like it should not matter but yet bothers the shit out of you? Yeah, I’m talking about those little pet peeves that us ladies have that men sometimes seem think they have NO IDEA about. Well I’m going to help you men out a wee bit. Read on.

1. Laggers:
   We’ve all been in that predicament that we do not give a flying shit how long someone takes to text us back but when it comes to the person we actual are feeling… it’s war. Women undeniably HATE it when guys lag on us, either it is taking them forever to pick us up or centuries to text us back. Either way, if you take 5 hours to text us back we’re most likely is going to take 6 hours to respond back. We don’t play. *Kanyeshrug*
2. Claw Of A Nails:
   Hygiene is vital gentlemen!!! Don’t come around ya girl with nails as long as my gel acrylics. Long nails most likely comes with all the nastiness in everyday life under them and what female wants to hold the hand of a man with his lunch greeting us within’ his nails… Just like Justice said in Poetic Justice, “What the fuck you know? You don’t even keep your fucking nails clean.”
3. No Rhythm Having Ass:
   Oh lawd, women you’re about to scream ‘Amen’ at this one. How many times have you been to the club and you spot a hawtie in the corner of your eye? He gradually comes closer and asks you for a dance. You’re like ‘Coo cooo, I’m down for this one.’ Then right before you know it he starts to dance behind you and you’re like wow I really set myself up for this one. The man is a ‘Swinger’. You know those guys who have no type of rhythm and all he does is move from left to right. Customarily that’s your queue to dip out as soon as possible and vanish into the crowd. No women like a man who cannot keep a beat let alone have rhythm. And that goes for anywhere, anytime. If y’all know what I mean.
4. Cockiness:
   Don’t get me wrong. Women love a man with confidence but to a certain extent. No women want a man who can boost about himself throughout the whole conversation without pausing for a second to ask a woman how her day went. Women also do not like it when a guy is overly confident about his capability to pull any female right off the bat without a fight. Us ladies have little patience for a guy who doesn’t know the worth of women. We will gladly drop you within a quickness, no hesitation, no hard feelings.

5. Dragon Breath:
   Please take a second to smell your breath before approaching a female you’re interested in. Girl’s will take the initiative to smile like we cares and take a step back as far as she can get to run away from yo ass if your breath smells like something that belongs in the toilet! Please keep some gum available fellas! Shit, bring your toothbrush and mouthwash with you if necessary.

Keep in mind fellas, that’s only 5 pet peeves I personally feel like is important versus the vast amount roaming around the world other women have. It’s a trial and error process but you will ultimately learn. But hey! Don’t sweat it! Most women will look pass all your flaws and realize all the other great qualities you hold and that is the one you should hold down.

The older, more mature, silver-foxed model is currently #trending in the fashion world this season. First, we saw Joan Didion in the Céline campaign, and now Rag & Bone has also taken a liking to the trend!

For its Fall 2015 campaign, Rag & Bone features Mikhali Baryshinikov, Russian ballet dancer and actor. I know his name doesn’t sound too familiar at first… but does an Aleksandr Petrovsky from Sex & The City, Season 6 ring a bell?!

Rag & Bone also produced a short film that captures Baryshinikov dancing alongside street dancer Lil ‘Buck and a few others. Check out the short film below, shot by Georgie Greville, as well as images of Mr. Petrovsky. You can also find Rag & Bone’s full lookbook here.

BAE-DAY BAE-DAY ALERT! National ‘Simp’ Day is literally right around the corner so you know us ladies are scrambling all over the place trying to find the right dress, scheduling that make-up/hair/nail appointment, and making sure we get those eyebrows on fleek… even though we aren’t to sure what we’re doing yet. *Pause*

All my ladies from coast-to-coast know exactly how it feels to be let down on this day. Don’t front, we all want that fairy tale like Valentines day that we can all brag to our home girls like… “Shit, my man took me out to Mastro’s Steakhouse, how bout you?” And you see, we can’t say that if our man is out here playing with our emotions being clueless like they always are. That is where it starts… Valentines Day Expectations Vs Reality.

1. Expectation: “I’ma probably get home from work and my room is probably filled with red and pink balloons and his cute ass will be there with flowers.”
   Reality: *Opens Door Preparing To Look Surprised* Walks into a room the way you left it. Immediately speeds to Food 4 Less to cop that Ciroc bottle on sale, no fucks given.

2. Expectation: “Babe I’ma pick you up at 7, okay? Be ready.”
   Reality: Half passed 7, you’re all dolled up and the idiot is still not here. Then you get a text… “I’m sorry my car won’t start. Can you pick me up?” Really. Call Uber or something. We always gotta do everything, right ladies??
3. Expectation: “Alright, we’re at the fancy restaurant. Everything is going smoothly. He’s definitely gettin’ it tonight.”
   Reality: *Bill Comes* “Shit… I didn’t think it’ll be this much. Wanna split it?” That’s when you give him a stank face, don’t say anything and just walk out leaving the fool to figure that shit out himself.

4. Expectation: “Okay we been together for 3 years now he’s going to surprise me. We don’t have to talk bout Valentines Day.”
   Reality: The day comes and he tells you, “Babe, I didn’t think you cared about Valentines Day. You didn’t say anything?” And that’s when you slap him silly. Hard.

All in all, we all hope for the best on this day hoping shit like this don’t go down. Most likely it won’t and if it does, girl it’s all good! Let ya boy know what’s up so next year will run smoothly.

Valentines Day is supposed to be a day filled with positive vibes being exchanged with the person you love most. We tend to expect the most amazing concepts beings done for us on this day but we also need to just be thankful to have that person in our lives… even if he took you out to some busted ass restaurant. It’s the thought that counts right? Hope everyone have a simp-tastic Valentines Day!!! *Mwuah*

Holy fuck. This is damn near one of the finest editorials we’ve seen in a long, long time. And to think that the editorial features the once “Baby, baby, baby, ohhhhh” singing Justin Bieber, or should I say Justin Baeber… or should I say zaddddddy. 

His latest feature for Interview Magazine was just. Omfg. I mean…. the knife, the clowns, the lack of clothing. The Polaroid aesthetic shoot was photographed by Steven Klein (BRB while I go post some full-sized posters for my bedroom).

Swoon over the images below, and peep the full interview here hosted by Martha Stewart (Don’t worry, I’m thinking what y’all are thinking… Martha Stewart? I’m just as confused).

Da boss man, Bam Barcena, just launched a special project through his work with streetwear vets, Crooks & Castles and New York hip-hop collective, Pro Era. It couldn’t be more perfect. Using Pro Era’s iconic “rasta” clorway through out the collection, the collaboration makes this west coast / east coast alliance fit anyone’s style.

Available exclusively at Zumiez, #PROSxCONS will be a sure fire hit. Make sure to hit one up this weekend, don’t be a sleeper.

Keeping true to streetwear’s roots in hip-hop and skateboarding, this collaboration with Pro Era gives life to a once lost aesthetic of bold, in your face graphic tees and all over prints. I’m very impressed and excited to see Crooks take this step and get back to what made them what they are today. Fifteen years strong and Crooks has still got it.

Read more about the collection on Crooksncastles.com and if you’re not already, get familiar with the Pro Era crew here.

Happy Monday! Everyone’s favorite day of the week…. not. We all know how much hate and shade we throw at Mondaze. If it weren’t for our local coffee shop, Coffee Co.Lab, I don’t know how we’d survive. Your bad gyalz from Hellz seriously come here every damn day.

Best coffee on the block, and I mean, lezzzz be fucking real, the Co.Lab boyz are a site for sore eyes…am I right, ladies?!  We sat down with Frankie, one of the 4 owners, and chatted about the story behind Coffee Co.Lab:

What’s the Coffee CoLab story? Tell us about how the Coffee CoLab team got into the coffee business, and what’s the meaning behind the name?

It’s a pretty basic story—not much to it. We basically became tired of building companies for other people and watching them destroy what we had built and turn it into a monster. We witnessed everything from cutting corners to under appreciating employees and client disrespect (as in more money less product to gain a buck).

It was only natural for us to take a step away and take lead of the monsters we created and build a bigger, better, nicer, kinder, and gentler monster. We needed to restore integrity to our culture. You know after 10 years as a team we figured why not collaborate or make a coffee lab hence Colab or Co.Lab.

What’s a typical morning for the CoLab team?

That depends on who’s on bar… and who you ask. Some want a morning drink (aka BEN) some want a morning smoke (aka ALEX), some want the headache of being a first time small business owner to just disappear (aka Will, one of the owners). While others wants to go to krav maga (LEO) and others just want to charm the ladies that stop by for the morning “C” rush (hey, STEVE).

But for the most part, our typical morning is something we love. So it’s the “cool kid at school” feeling where you love the position you are in, but realizing your position in leading vs following .

Your cold brew is a morning staple for the HLZBLZ team! What can you tell us about mastering the craft of cold brews?

I can tell you we have spent tons of time figuring out the best common ground for palates to meet and agree, when you have passion for any one thing, you focus to the point where it drives you a little crazy or ocd. I can tell you it takes love, time, and care, just like anything else.

Can you tell us a bit about what Suits & Knives is, and how you came up with the name?

Simple: you need the suits in this world “ the day in day out 9 to 5” who buckle down and still want to be in the know about whats on the up and up, and the knives, the sharps, the “ still young and on point with current trend” with a grind for passion of being in the know and on the go with everything cool, and the middle ground of where we can meet and have something we can agree with good coffee, Suits and Knives

Coffee CoLab is more than just a coffee shop. It has a lifestyle element to it. What’s the lifestyle behind Coffee CoLab? What keeps you guys inspired?

Coffee is a culture that a lot of people don’t understand, but see and respect. We wanted to help it grow as a culture and elevate it to a lifestyle and move it to a more forward position of the publics eye. Our lifestyle is more based on the idea of loving what you do and expressing it through a blank outlet, leaving you with a unpainted picture so you can create and recreate anything at any given moment, because you don’t wake up every day with the same feeling and you don’t live every day the same so you shouldn’t have any one idea or limit to what or who you are, cuz in the end you are just you.

Where do you see Coffee CoLab in the next 5 years, and what projects can we expect in the near future?

Shooting shit on a boat, blowing stuff up, or saving dinosaurs, wish I could tell you but we play every day as if it’s a new day and even though we have goals for our long term we might wake up one day and feel like being sellouts, but we also could wake up the next day and be over it like…wow that was cool, but we’re glad everyday ain’t the same. For sure, we will definitely be immature and still making good coffee.

For more on Coffee Co.Lab, follow them on insta + twitter: @coffeecolab or swing by the shop on the Santee block: 305 E. 8th Street, Los Angeles, CA

Men, take notes. If you’re tryna make your woman feel like she’s on top of the world… it’s all about the small gestures. I’m not talking about that type of love you feel when you blow money on her or hit her with a ‘simpy’ text or any of that crap. It’s the love she feels when she knows you are not afraid to show her off. You feel me ladies?

Personally, when I see a dude take pride in his chick I get hit with a bit of envy. I’m not going to lie. There’s nothing like a guy recognizing and acknowledging the fact that he lucked out and pulled a fine ass bae that he can call hisown. That ‘Yup, that’s all me’ type feel. Us females love that shit. Let me list the reasons why this makes us feel some type of way:

1. First and foremost, it confirms to the bitches that YES you have a girl and that you are happy (This one is crucial fellas, these bitches need to knooow).
2. Not only do you have a girl, it shows you truly fucks with her on many levels to put her out there and not just hide her and keep her behind closed doors.
3. He isn’t embarrassed to show his bros he does have a little simp in him.
4. Congrats, after posting that pic you just now cut off all your hoes. You kill your own game with other females, but you don’t give a flying fuck. (You get 10 points for that.)
5. Undeniably gives her reassurance that you are not messing around with other females.
6. Even if your girl doesn’t feel like she is flawless in anyone elses eyes, you make her feel like someone in the world just might think she is. Which will boost her self-esteem that much.
7. Now a day, thirsty females will lurk their way into any person’s relationship. “He doesn’t even claim her.” is what hoes do and will say to try and break any relationship up. These are facts.
8. It’s just cute as hell to see a guy simp, lets be real. I mean not overly simp but just enough. For example: Post Malone’s way of simping to his girl. Cute pics of her blocking him while he takes a leak or tweets every so often like these…
   

Don’t get me wrong, not every relationship is into the whole putting their relationship out there on social media or whatever and I totally respect that. A relationship can totally persist without all the exposure of course. I mean, some of the best relationships are the ones where people can’t keep tabs on. But in general hiding the fact that you have a girl versus just trying to not put everything out in the open is two different things. If you really want your girl to feel special it will definitely gain you some brownie points to take pride in your relationship with her. If you’re not reppin’ your girl, then why the hellz do you have one? Let me hear your perspective, holla via twitter ‘@Whatthehellz’.

Gloomy grey skies, chilly breezes, yawp it’s officially ‘cuddle-season’. It’s time to pick one out of the many summer flings to settle down with cause it’s that time when everyone is getting lazy to go out and they just want to chill. I’m not going to lie, I used to love cuddle season since I always was in a relationship, but this time arould, I’m single it’s just straight depressing.

1. “All I hear are rain drops…“: Rainy days are the perfect days to cuddle up with BAE, watch a flick and drink wine together. The downfall about being single is I have to just cuddle up with my pillows and depressingly watch an action flick, intentionally avoiding those cheesy romance movies I would probably cry to.
2. New ‘Simp’ Music: This is the time of the year when artists like to drop their ‘Simp’ songs. If Drake decides to unexpectedly drop an album these next few months I’m probably not even going to buy/preview it until Spring. #SorryNotSorry
3. ‘COUPLES… EVERYWHERE!': This season straight up brings out the PDA in everyone, I swear. You can’t even go shopping without seeing a couple holding hands or showing enormous amounts of PDA. Like ugh, get away from me!!!
4. Holidays: Actually, being single during ‘Cuddle-Season’ is kind of a good thing because you don’t have to spend a lot of money on another individual besides your fam and close friends but it is also sad when you don’t have anyone special to bring to your holiday parties.
5. All Your Friends Are ‘Boo’ed Up’: All your friends have a significant other and they rather go out to dinner dates with rather than go out partying with you so you’re force to stay in by your lonesome.
6. I Hate Sleeping Alone: On cold, chilly nights you are forced to warm yourself up instead of having a personal human heater. (My friends on the right, me on the left.)

I’m playing… ‘Cuddle-Season’ isn’t all that bad when you think about it. Learning to enjoy your own company is the best type of company, tbh. Work on yourself, for yourself, strategically making moves for a better you. You never know, you might just find potential BAE within the ‘Cuddle-Season’ when you least expect it…

Listen, I’ve always been a sole devotee in the power of trusting my intuition. I’m talking about that strong, deep af vibe linked to your intuition aka  ‘gut-feeling’.

We’ve all heard that subconscious voice whispering unexplainable reasoning and guidance from within. Like, “Yeah, this fucker is definitely playing me.” Or “I really feel like making this move will make me prosper.” Or even as simple as “A. is definitely the answer.” Well there is some ‘nerdy’ reasoning to why you really should make your decision on the natural vibes you get from situations.

Researchers from Leeds University in England studied ‘intuition’ and concluded that the brain, over time, saves certain memories in your long-term memory without you even trying. Later your brain draws on past experiences at a subconscious level when needed – and it happens in a split second. So fast, in fact, that you aren’t aware your ‘intuition’ is actually stemmed from previous logical thinking. Cool, isn’t it?!

This is why people always tell you to trust your gut. Vibes don’t lie, BAE, go with your instinct.

Arguing, good loving, fights, relationship weight and more good loving. Relationships can get messy, bittersweet and at times be the best blessing in the world. I, personally, am not a relationship guru or anything of that sort but I had my fair share of experiences. There are many situations I’ve witnessed or heard from my homegirls that I relentlessly shake my head at.

Here are a few crucial ones:

1. Be your man’s peace, not the one causing the headaches. Ladies, it’s vital to be that individual in your man’s life where he can run to when he is tremendously stressed out, hopeless and tired. If your man isn’t running to you because you’re the one that is constantly bitter, nagging and is never positive… there is a problem. He will run to someone else, and don’t be mad when he does.
   
2. Revolving your whole life around him. I know love is a crazy thing. You want to persistently be in their atmosphere, text them every minute, just give them your full on attention. This is the hugest mistake we females tend to do. We get so preoccupied with our relationship we tend to forget about our friendships. No longer keeping in touch, not attending ‘girls-night-out’, etc. But, who do we run to when we’re crying our asses off cause our man is being a fuck boy? Our homegirls. Realize this, who is going to come up with numerous strategies to cheer your ass up when your relationship ends? Your homies. Balance is key.
   
3. Getting too comfortable, you start to make him your everything you start to lose yourself. Further down the road, of course we feel the need to not care much about how we look because we know we got them already. As woman, we should never lose ourselves trying to take care of our man. We need to constantly be on our game and be ‘fleeked’ out as fuck to fight off any bitches who feel like they are in any competition with us and most importantly to grow the attraction our man has for us.
   

Every relationship is beautifully distinct in their own way. There really aren’t any rules to it… just don’t be that girl to regret it in the end.

Today’s #MCM is Michael B. Jordan. Have you guys seen his new movie Creed? Like, I mean, uh.. shit. I can’t even talk. He was lookin’ f*in hot in it. His muscles, his sweatiness exercising, his smile, even his non-smiles, and did I mention his muscles? Oooweee. Maybe it was how he was portrayed in the movie as the strong, motivated, son of Apollo Creed or… nahhh he’s just hot. We all could see he did worked hard though to get those muscles all bulked up and defined for the role. And he did a damn good job. *Insert heart eye emojis and fire ones too**
The movie plot was really good too. I def recommend you guys watch it. Also, Michael B. Jordans outfits in the movie caught my eye a lot. He basically was all decked out in Nike! I was like.. Oh heyyy, you’re lookin’ pretty good over there. Haha. Check out the trailer below along with some outfit pics from the movie.

Contributed by Vanessa.

Life gets a little overwhelming and it’s always good to have some “me” time. Even us bad ass ladies have to wind down and get her mind right while we slayin every damn day. Here’s my go to starter pack for my “me” time. Feel free to try it out or share with us your go to ritual.

Bubble Baths
If you have a tub, fill it with warm water and add the Aveeno Stress Relief Foaming Bath. Sooo relaxing.

Candles
You can get these Pure and Natural Salt Water Orchid candle at Target. I used to think candles smelled all the same, but this certain brand and smell is my ultimate favorite. I’ve already used up 2 candles because I light it everyday:) The lavender and vanilla scent is nice too!

Wine
Alcohol.. DUH! Best thing to have when you needa relax. I mean not too much.. well if you’re down, there’s no judging here. I guess you can have a shot or more of Jameson or Henny, but I like to do wine also. No.8 red wine is good or any chardonnay white wine.

Music
I like to just put on Pandora on the relaxation station or sometimes just hang out while it’s quiet.

Okay. Relaxing done. Time to get more work done.

Contributed by Vanessa.

Ladies, I know there comes a point in our relationship where we play the part of a certified schemer who, usually, will take any opportunity that we can to take a little peek into our man’s phone. I, personally, am hella guilt-ridden of it. But the thing is… I highly incite anyone to look through their significant other’s phone primarily for reassurance purposes.

There is an abundant amount of stories I have heard from innumerable of my close friends that set my mind in rock-solid-stone on the fact that a lot can be kept away in a damn iPhone device and, at times, you wouldn’t have even suspect it.

A true story: One of my friend’s ex-man was secretly having another relationship with one of her good friends for over TWO YEARS and she never suspected it. She never thought to look into his phone until one day he fell asleep and she placed his finger on his iPhone and BAYUM she saw all the naked pictures and conversations.

Trust me, it will save you a lot of time if you assert yourself aka lurk but to a certain extent. To a certain extent meaning not going all psycho ape-shit checking their phone every instant you get. If you literally don’t ever find anything and suspect any shenanigans is going down. Chill out, you might just have yourself a winner.

I understand, a relationship is built on trust but my argument is… a lot can change in a vast or even minimal amount of time, it’s always good to reassure yourself.

If the time ever does come that you do find something SUS, it’s best to assert the situation and ask your significant other what the deal is. Frequently when lurking, we have a minimal amount of time to check their phone and usually we will find minor things that we create assumptions causing our mind to go everywhere. Speak on it, express yourself, you never know what you’ll find out.