I feel like not enough credit is given to the ‘Next Guy’ that you happen to fall for after you have been broken down so much from your previous… From personal experiences, I have been hurt over and over to the point I don’t won’t to even deal with the heartaches and the mental exhaustion that goes hand in hand in a relationship. For a guy to even make me lean slightly towards the direction in considering going through all the stages all over again must be some hell of a guy. On the other hand, for a guy to even try to come into a relationship knowing I was once broken, highly sensitive and is STILL down to put it with it is? That, there ladies, is what I call someone worth your time.
1. Helps Rebuild You:
After getting out of a relationship where you’ve been fucked over, lied to, mentally abused and psychically exhausted, trying to heal on your own is going to take a long time… That next guy that you happen to fall for will be your catalyst when it comes to rebuilding yourself. Believe it or not, you gotta thank this dude for occupying your time/mind and evidently stop you from playing drake all night cuddled up in the corner of your room.
2. In Competition To Steal A Heart That Once ‘Loved’ Before:
Obviously he knew coming into your relationship that you once cared a lot about someone prior. He knows that he is starting off with a slate that is worn and a bit torn. He is there to un-crinkle, dust off, and repair that slate and he is going to start by doing whatever in his power to steal your heart and make you forget about that loser. (What’s his name? What? Idk what you’re talking about.) He knows your past is in no way a competition to him. He is better for you and he will do everything in his power to prove that to you by working 10x harder than he has to with a girl who wasn’t hurt before.
3. Puts Up With Your Psycho-ness:
Us ladies may come off psycho some times… Yes, I admit it. But it is only cause we have been lied to for so long to the point where we second guess everything like if that girl is really your child hood friend or your side chick and we put in extra effort (aka lurking our asses off) just to figure out if it was a lie or not. Unnecessary as hell but blame that compulsive liar we had to deal with before. The next guy chooses to deal with it explaining to you over and over again that she is nothing more than a friend then we are off tripping on the next female that pops up on his ‘Best friends’ on Snap Chat.
4. Changes Up Your Perspective:
After you have been treated like shit for so long you begin to feel like that’s how a relationship is supposed to be. The next guy comes around and is a complete 360 from your past and you start to get a little weirded out. Give it up to the next guy again for treating you well and you react by tripping on him for being ‘SUS’. Once again he puts up with it and you will eventually learn that not all guys have cruel intentions.
5. Rebuilds Your Self-Esteem:
Your self-esteem is bound to drop after coming out of a relationship of cheating. The next guy knows he has to rebuild your self-esteem whether it is to tell you you’re beautiful every second of the day or to actually show you you’re beautiful by giving you ‘That Look’. (Mhm ladies you know exactly what that look is.) Either way, this helps repair your self-esteem and you can thank the next guy for understanding you’re not yearning for compliments but you REALLY do feel insecure sometimes.
Its almost evident that of course you are going to be hurt as hell, you can’t seem to get that stupid feeling off your chest, your walls are built so high you don’t even know where it ends, but the next guy that changes your perspective on relationships and makes you fall in love all over again is someone you should show much appreciation to. So if this relates to you, go say thanks to ya man immediately. He deserves it.