Ladies, I know there comes a point in our relationship where we play the part of a certified schemer who, usually, will take any opportunity that we can to take a little peek into our man’s phone. I, personally, am hella guilt-ridden of it. But the thing is… I highly incite anyone to look through their significant other’s phone primarily for reassurance purposes.
There is an abundant amount of stories I have heard from innumerable of my close friends that set my mind in rock-solid-stone on the fact that a lot can be kept away in a damn iPhone device and, at times, you wouldn’t have even suspect it.
A true story: One of my friend’s ex-man was secretly having another relationship with one of her good friends for over TWO YEARS and she never suspected it. She never thought to look into his phone until one day he fell asleep and she placed his finger on his iPhone and BAYUM she saw all the naked pictures and conversations.
Trust me, it will save you a lot of time if you assert yourself aka lurk but to a certain extent. To a certain extent meaning not going all psycho ape-shit checking their phone every instant you get. If you literally don’t ever find anything and suspect any shenanigans is going down. Chill out, you might just have yourself a winner.
I understand, a relationship is built on trust but my argument is… a lot can change in a vast or even minimal amount of time, it’s always good to reassure yourself.
If the time ever does come that you do find something SUS, it’s best to assert the situation and ask your significant other what the deal is. Frequently when lurking, we have a minimal amount of time to check their phone and usually we will find minor things that we create assumptions causing our mind to go everywhere. Speak on it, express yourself, you never know what you’ll find out.